Dear Sophie . . .


Anna-Grace Medlin, Editor of Student Life

Here’s an advice column for all of you who need a little help getting through the day, just generally deciding what to do in life. Whether you’re in a love triangle or want to know what to do about that toxic bestie (cut them out, babe) I’m here to help but don’t worry; I’ll never tell.

We can all sense the love in the air after Valentine’s Day has just passed. Here we have a question from a member of the lonely hearts club: 

Dear Sophie,

I have been in love with this girl for over two years now, but I’m scared of getting into a relationship again because of what happened with my last relationship. How do I get past that? Or do I just try to forget about the girl I like all together?”

Signed: Lost in Love

Dear Lost in Love,

Whoa, starting off with a heavy one, am I right? First of all, you have to heal from that first relationship. Figure out what went wrong with it. What is the thing that you felt hurt you? Learn what that is, think about it, and then realize how you can grow from it. If you can’t love yourself, then it’ll be impossible for you to  love anyone else. If you go into a new relationship when you’re not emotionally available, it will become a disaster, and you’ll only hurt yourself and the other person. In general, focus on yourself first.

Now, in terms of the secret love interest. It sounds like you’ve loved this girl for a while, and you have been waiting for her. She obviously means a lot to you and must be worth the wait. If you’ve waited this long, what’s a little longer? As I said, focus on you and then go for it. What’s the worst that could happen? You have to decide if the risk is worth the reward.

Just remember to be confident in yourself, and ultimately, your heart will tell you where to go.

Now for our next struggling teen: 

Dear Sophie,

I’m a high school senior picking my college for next year. I’m deciding between Western Carolina and Wake Tech. They are both cheap so cost isn’t an issue. My issue is that my boyfriend goes to NC State. I didn’t get in and I don’t want to be far from him so that makes me want to go to Wake Tech. We have been dating for a year and a half and don’t do well with distance. However, Western is the school I want to go to and would give me unique opportunities for my career path. Western is however five hours away. What should I do?”

Signed: Lost and Confused

Dear Lost and Confused,

Let’s break this down, shall we? In my eyes there are a couple of options: One, you can go to Wake Tech and be close to your boyfriend but risk missing out on your dreams. It could lead to you resenting him in the future, and your relationship will always have that rocky beginning.

Two, you can go to Western and have more opportunities to live the life you choose. Yes, you risk losing your man, but isn’t it worth it? You could accomplish so much and live the life you deserve. If you really love, trust, and want to be with each other then long distance can and will work.

Now, I guess I should give you my advice. Go to Western. It’s what you truly want in your heart and if you love each other, then it will all work out in the end. Yes, long distance is hard, but so are relationships in general. Ten years from now you’ll be so glad you chose the school you truly wanted to attend because you would have accomplished your dreams.

However, you must ultimately decide what you truly want.

That’s enough advice for now. Good luck to all of you students at FVHS, and if you need anything,  just let me know.

Don’t forget if you have questions just submit them to [email protected] and I, Sophie, will try to answer them as best I can.